Family Focus Ministry
Pastors Jesse & Brenda McNeil
“Every person is worth understanding!”

 

(1) Encourage him to get involved in tasks that will have a positive impact on his life. If you can’t think of anything, encourage him to find an outlet, such as helping with a sport’s team, assisting in a class at church, etc.

(2) Show appreciation for the things he does. Let him know how much you appreciate his earnings, his being the father of your children, and being your husband.

(3) Clearly communicate your needs. Tell him how to serve you so that he can succeed.

(4) Avoid criticism that belittles or degrades him. Nagging gets you nowhere in the long run…. “Listen, if your husband is not leading well, it’s probably because he’s insecure or unsure of what to do. Belittling and criticizing him only makes matters worse.”

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Services Offered:
Premarital Preparation, Post Marital Advisory,
Marriage Ceremonies, Seminars & Speaking Engagements
For comments or questions email us at:
ffm@tampabay.rr.com or call 863-944-2283 or 863-944-0762

(1) Stay connected with her emotionally. Your wife wants you to understand how she feels, and she wants to know what is going on in your heart and mind as well. “Listen, God cares so much about this that He instructed the newlywed husband to invest a year into nothing but the happiness of his wife. He is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married” (Deut. 24:5).

(2) Avoid criticism that threatens her sense of self-worth. She needs to know that you love her for who she is, regardless of what she does or doesn’t do. Tell her regularly that you love her, no matter what.

(3) Talk to her and pray with her. Communication is the key to creating intimacy with your wife. Make time every day to have meaningful interaction with her. Ask questions about her day. “Listen, look her in the eyes, ask how she’s doing and really listen to her answer.”

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Services Offered:
Premarital Preparation, Post Marital Advisory,
Marriage Ceremonies, Seminars & Speaking Engagements
For comments or questions email us at:
ffm@tampabay.rr.com or call 863-944-2283 or 863-944-0762

As It Relates to Love and Respect-Ephesians 5:33     Love and Respect are two of the greatest needs for the husband and wife. The husband is energized by respect, coupled with love, and the wife is energized by love, coupled with respect. Marriage is a wonderful plan from God, and it should never be taken lightly, but of course, it is also challenging. Nevertheless, our God has given us everything we need for success. It is important that we live our lives with an attitude of seeking spiritual growth so that Christ, the one who died for us, may be glorified and honored. My friend, this special information is not for condemnation, but observation for transformation, coupled with prayer, patience, and walking in love.

LOVE

  • A spirit-filled husband will love and lead his wife (Ephesians 5:25); a carnal husband will rule or dominate his wife.
  • A spirit-filled husband will compliment (praise/flatter) and encourage his wife; a carnal husband will tear down or depreciate his wife (Ephesians 4:32).
  • A spirit-filled husband will complement (fulfill/please) his wife; a carnal husband will compete with his wife (1 Corinthians 7:33).

RESPECT

  • A spirit-filled wife will esteem and empower her husband; a carnal wife will devour/belittle her husband (Galatians 5:15).
  • A spirit-filled wife will submit or come under her husband’s leadership; a carnal wife will dominate her husband (Ephesians 5:24).
  • A spirit-filled wife will complement (fulfill/please) her husband; a carnal wife will compete with her husband (1 Corinthians 7:34).

Ten Laws of Health
(Proverbs 4: 20-22)

1. Fresh air and sunshine
To breathe deeply and to receive vitamin D.
2. Drink plenty of water
Drink cold drinks, coffee, etc., in moderation.
3. Peaceful Sleep
The body needs 7-8 hours of sleep a day.
4. Practice eating nutritiously
Eat lots of fruits, vegetables, dried beans and whole grains.
5. Get some exercise
Walking, bike riding, etc.
6. Give and Receive Love
Romans 5:8, I Corinthians 13th chapter, Ephesians 5:1-2.
7. Be a forgiver
Ephesians 4:31-32.
8. Practice Gratitude
I Thessalonians 5:18.
9. Develop Acceptance
Romans 15:1.
10. Develop a relationship/fellowship with God
John 1:12, John 3:16.

Thanks to “Focus on the Family”

We are pulling out of our driveway to go to our son’s first Championship Baseball game. He is the starting pitcher today, and then it happens. My phone rings and it is the church secretary. Pastor, the bathroom toilet has overflowed and the sanctuary is flooding. Now I get a text from the head deacon, I am on the way to the hospital. My wife is going into labor and she is hemorrhaging.

The phone rings again……My wife looks at me and says. “Can’t you just ignore that phone long enough to watch your son’s game! We have a life too!”

Does any of this sound familiar? As a pastor the multiple directions of life that pull on us are impossible to imagine, unless you are a pastor.

The “Call” of a shepherd is a great responsibility and the gift of a wife and children is a wonderful blessing. They each demand our time and attention. The only way to have the wisdom, strength and sensitivity do all well is by the “Hand of God” on our life.

As Pastors it is critical that we surround ourselves with men(pastors) who completely understand this and are willing to go to the throne of God with us and for us. Having men of God who we can trust standing with us is invaluable and standing up for our fellow brothers is just as important! As a pastor, it is very easy to find ourselves standing all alone when church and family collide. This is why we have developed the Champions Table also called the “Pastor’s Prayer Fortress”. It truly is a fortress of prayer.

The Champions Table becomes your prayer fortress, four men standing together when everyone else scatters. These four men develop a sacred bond that is unbreakable! This “prayer fortress” is the foundation of the Champions Table.

Some may still say, I am a Pastor, why do I need a “prayer fortress”? I am constantly being asked to pray about every kind of issue imaginable. Every single day someone has a new crisis that needs immediate attention and prayer. Prayer is a way of life for me. I get up out of bed praying for people and I go to bed praying for people. I pray for our country and for Israel, I pray for my wife and children, I pray for revival and a mighty move of God, for the hurting, I pray for the widows and orphans, the homeless and hungry too.

Again, some will respond, “Pastor’s Fortress”, I feel like I live in a fortress? Well, that is the point. The walls of “aloneness” can grow thicker and thicker when a man stands alone. That is why Jesus himself gave us the model to follow! Men like us linking arms with us and “praying with us and for us”, mighty men of God who love us and we are safe with! Now this is what every Pastor needs!

The Champions Table “Frees” us and breathes life and vitality into us. We never feel alone again. Start your Champions Table today and feel the relief that comes from your “Pastors Fortress of Prayer”.

Now watch this short video and see for yourself:

1. Do make the Word of God your priority authority.
2. Do speak words of encouragement.
3. Do communicate exactly what you feel, truthfully and with love.
4. Do respect your spouse’s opinions and thoughts.
5. Do your part to establish peace in the home.
6. Do listen intentionally, attentively, and understandingly.
7. Do forgive.
8. Don’t go to bed angry.
9. Don’t allow anger or unforgiveness to fester.
10. Don’t walk away from your spouse in the middle of a discussion.
11. Don’t ignore your spouse.
12. Don’t interrupt.
13. Don’t yell or use sarcasm.
14. Don’t belittle your spouse’s opinion.
15. Don’t make absolute statements like, “You never” and “You always.” Instead, say “I feel…” or “I have a problem,” etc.
16. Don’t give up, cave in, or quit.

1. Look for the good in your marriage (in your mate).
Do your best to make it right, especially if you have invested years into it (Rom. 8:28 – And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God…). God can turn messes into miracles and obstacles into opportunities, and remember that in every mess, there’s a message.

2. Consider all the positive things in the union.
Remember all the happy times, fun times, romantic times, and what you have built together. Keep intimacy fresh and make each other feel important. A man can function fairly well if intimacy goes from the marriage, but a woman cannot live in an emotionally stable way without it, whether she is 23 or 83. Don’t let boredom enter into your marriage, keep love alive. John 10:10b says, “I’ve come that you might have life, and have it more abundantly.” Start complimenting and exhorting one another (Eph. 4:32). Words fitly spoken are like apples of gold in pictures of silver (Prov. 25:11).

3. Ask for each other’s forgiveness.
Ask God to forgive you and ask your partner to forgive you (James 5:16). Eph. 4:31-32, Matt. 18:21-22, Matt. 5:23-24,

4. Learn to work out, work through, and communicate properly, problems and challenges.
Let’s grow up and be open for change (Eph. 4:15, 2 Peter 3:18)! Remember that the mind is not new, but it is constantly being renewed. Know that God is able (Eph. 3:20); Is there anything too hard for God (Gen. 18:14)?

5. If at all possible, don’t ever contemplate divorce!
God is a restorer (Psalms 23:3). He brings life back into situations. Romans 13:14 tells us to make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts, and John 10:10 says to give him no pleasure. The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. Resist him! Submit to God, resist the devil and he will flee from you (James 4:7). We are conquerors (Romans 8:32-34). Allow nothing to separate you.

6. Develop a personal private prayer life and start praying together. Alone, one can put a thousand to flight, however, when you and your spouse are in agreement, you can put ten thousand to flight. I am referring to enemy forces (Luke 18:1, Eph. 6:18, Deut. 32:30).

7. To the husband, love your wife as Christ loved the church.
Listen to your wife, learn your wife, understand your wife. Spend time together, know your wife, and communicate with your wife.

8. To the wife, give your husband respect.
(Eph. 5:33) Submit to his leadership, learn your husband, understand your husband. Do not trouble your own house (Prov. 11:29).


Current project is to help over 200+ churches in Honduras.

Providing assistance to the people in their area, to keep them safe at home and productive for their families.

(SOIL Ministry is a ministry partner of All Pro Pastors International)

EVANGELISM, MISSION OPPORTUNITIES, SEMINARY COURSES

• Church Administration – Video & Internet Series

• Master Life – The Disciples Personality

• Bible Training Center for Pastors (10 course pack)

• G.O.A.L.S. Mentoring – 13 week course

• Experiencing God – Knowing and Doing the Will of God

• Project – Saturate Honduras

• Love Is A Hunger Designed by God – Marriage Seminar

CHURCH WIDE COURSES

• English as a Second Language – ESL

Church Wide Studies

• CIVICS (Honduran & USA)

• HISTORY (Honduran & USA)

MEDICAL MISSIONS – Surgical Teams last conducted in Tocoa, Colon

If you have some time in your schedule I would love to talk about joining this effort. A great way to spread Goodwill while assisting the USA with the immigration issues, while doing it with compassion.

https://www.globalgoodwillambassadors.org/serviing-others-in-love-honduras

Anthony Ponceti, Th.D.
Global Goodwill Ambassador
Soil Ministry Honduras
All Pro Pastors International
anthonyponceti@aol.com
(863) 370-1080

What is a Champion Pastor or better yet who is a Champion Pastor? You may think that we are going to start with some deep theological statements accompanied by a list of scripture but that is for another day.

A Champion is someone who has defeated or surpassed all others in some type of competition and also can be someone who is the advocate in support of others or a cause.

Pastors, you have been called/assigned by God to “Champion” the gospel and to defend the cause of Jesus Christ. You have also been called to be a Shepherd, ready to defend your sheep against the evil of the physical as well as spiritual world! However, many of you men needed a helpmate and God supplied you with a wife. A wife to love even as Jesus loves the Church. In other words you are to be your wife’s “Champion”! You are to love your wife even if it means to lay down your life for her, (just as Jesus did for you)! You never replace your wife with your sheep! She will always take priority over the sheep! She is your first priority above all others on earth.

In fact, the way you love and treat your wife is a direct reflection of how you sincerely love and honor God. You can not say you love God with all your heart and then mistreat your wife. This is totally contrary to God’s Word.

First step to truly be a Champion Pastor starts at home!

Now let me ask you a few questions to see how good of a Champion you are.

Champion Maker Questions

Have I spent enough time in personal prayer this week? (What would God say?)

Have I spent enough personal time in God’s word?

Did my faith waiver any this week and if so how did I struggle; fear, doubt, temptation, judgement, etc. ?

Have I had any flirtatious or lustful attitudes, tempting thoughts, wandering eyes or exposed myself to any explicit materials (TV, Internet, Mag. Etc) which would not glorify God?

Did anyone tempt me (wandering eyes) or approach me in an inappropriate manner?  What did I do?

Have I been completely above reproach in my financial dealings? Have I been honest with my wife about my spending?

Have I treated my body as God’s Temple? In my(Eating, Morality, Exercise, Purity/Holiness)

Have I prayed with my wife every day in a personal way? (not blessing a meal)

Have I treated my wife as “Jesus loves the Church”? (How much time, listening, helping, appreciating and encouraging her?)

Have I worked to make our home a safe place for our family to spend time alone together?

Have I been a great husband and father this week? What would my wife say?

Have I been a Man of God in ALL my dealings this week? What would God say?

( Have I lied in any of my answers?)

  What am I going to do about it this week?

If you are in a Champions Table I suggest that you take these questions and review with your Table. If you do not have a Champion Table perhaps you should start one today! Click Here!

 

Upon arriving in the USA in 1995, we noticed how the stores were always gearing up for the next holiday, season or event. If it’s not Easter, it’s Mother’s Day. If not Mother’s Day, it’s Valentine’s Day, if not Valentine’s Day, then Halloween and so on. Why am I saying this? We, as bible believing Christians need to take our cue from the Word of God, not from culture. In other words, don’t be event centered, but rather Christ centered.
In Him we live and move and have our being. (Acts 17:23)
The lines have fallen to me in pleasant places. (Psalm 16:6)
It’s Christ in us, the hope of glory. (Col 1:17)
Why is it so important to not be tossed to and fro by every wind of doctrine or by what season it is, or whether a holiday is coming? Because we need to be grounded in the season of God and in His Word, learning to receive from God without all the stuff potentially getting in the way and learning to be content when the bank account is low or the circumstances are challenging.
A.W. Tozer said it best many years ago when he spoke about how culture would play into our inability to be able to receive from God; that we would need props, gimmicks, shorter services, shorter worship, drive through services and entertainment to keep our attention, etc…
He said this…
The tragic results of this sport are about us: 
Shallow lives, hallow religious philosophies, the preponderance of the element of fun in the gospel meetings, the glorification of men, trust in religious externalities, quasi-religious fellowships, salesmanship methods, the mistaking of dynamic personality for the power of the Spirit. These and such as these are the symptoms of an evil disease, a deep and serious malady of the soul.
AW Tozer, The Pursuit of God.
Is that prophetic or what?!
Yes, we need to draw the unbeliever with whatever means necessary but once we have their ears, then they need to experience God and not man. My feeling is that if an unbeliever darkens the door of a church then they are looking for God. They’ve had it with man. Man has let them down. Man has not been there when their loved one has died or when they lost their child.  Man cannot replace God but can point to one who saves us into eternal life.
At this most polarizing time of the year, let us not be tempted to slip into consumer mode. Be the answer to the child’s prayer for a toy. Be the solution to the family’s plea for a hot Christmas lunch. Be the mouthpiece of God to bring comfort to those who mourn and a lifeline to God for the desperate sinner needing a Savior.
Let us all be mindful of the deep cry of the soul for a friend to lean on and an ear to hear. It’s time to stop and smell the yellow roses! Why yellow? Because yellow is significant of friendship. It means a new day, a new year, and a new purpose to walk in the fullness of God.
Merry Christmas

Welcome to our Worldwide Prayer Network. This network spans the globe where Ministers, Ministries, Individuals and Congregations are joining in unity to pray for the “Body of Christ” to work together in the spirit of love, harmony and purpose. It is our prayer that this network will pray every hour of every day until Jesus returns.

We invite you and your ministry/church to commit to one specific hour per week to pray and join in this final international prayer gathering of the saints. This is a life commitment that you will pray each and every week for only one hour. There are 168 hours each week and we are expecting every hour to have many leaders and churches praying during each one and every one. Below are a few of the prayer points that we are praying. The list will continue to grow and change over time.

Please sign-up to join the network

Suggested and needed areas for prayer. Leaders are encouraged to select and edit as led by “Holy Spirit”!

  • Pastors will work together in their community to save the lost and make disciples
  • For all Christian Churches and pastors in their community regardless of their race or denomination
  • Pastors will establish relationships of love and trust between themselves
  • Local churches and Pastors will stop criticizing one another and start loving one another
  • Leaders of the denominations to work together with purpose to reach every community for Christ
  • Pastors to have a Kingdom attitude and heart
  • Pastors marriages and families to be strong, healthy and holy. To be examples of Christ.
  • Pastors to pray with their spouse every day
  • That strong Pastors will step forward to establish “Champion Tables” as leaders in every community
  • The Body of Christ, the Church, to become passionate about praying and will develop the discipline to pray each day with intensity and intentionally
  • That Pastors “Fast and Pray” with accountability and encouragement to one another with confidentiality
  • That anyone who calls themselves a Christian will serve and honor God with their life, words, actions, thoughts, attitudes and above all “love”
  • Our National leaders will turn to Jesus and become committed Christians
  • All Presidents, Prime Ministers and Heads of State will use the Bible as the standard for governing
  • That our Governmental leaders will call for fasts and prayers to be held at their governmental headquarters
  • For Pastors to be called to every country’s capital to pray in unity repenting and worshiping Jesus
  • That Christians will vote where and when allowed for candidates who are committed Christians
  • For Israel and their people to accept Jesus as their Messiah and Savior
  • For All Pro Pastors International and The Pastors Prayer Center to fulfill it’s Mission and Vision
  • For provision to come into this ministry so that there is more than enough to reach the entire world with this mission and for the gospel of Jesus Christ to be shared to all people
  • That the 24/365 Prayer Network will have pastors and leaders sign-up quickly and honestly to faithfully pray
  • That our hearts will have forgiveness for one another for years of racial and cultural division and criticism
  • For a great move of the Holy Spirit to move through the land with a great demonstration of power
  • For all Christian Married couples to pray together every day showing compassion for each other before God