How to TALK So My Spouse Will Listen
It is very important to seek God in prayer for wisdom. Proper timing and direction before
engaging in conversation is essential. Notice this scripture, Psalms 16:11-“I will show
you the path(s) of life. In my presence is fullness of joy; at my right hand there are
pleasures for evermore.” He has given all of us a powerful ministry. It is called the
ministry of reconciliation (2 Cor. 5:18). Let’s take an optical view of these guidelines.
Go to the proper person with a good attitude
(Matt. 5:23-24, 18:15).
Sit down in a quiet place with no distractions.
Pray before engaging in conversation (Optional but important).
Have dialogue conversation (Both people talk), which involves
talking and listening. One person should not dominate the
conversation.
No name-calling, no yelling, no foul language.
Focus on the problem, not the person; stick to the issue.
Avoid generalities. Examples: you never, you always.
Use the “I” statement.
Examples:
a. I have a problem ………………………………………………………………………
b. I need to know…………………………………………………………………………..
c. I feel frustrated about ………………………………………………………………
d. I feel disappointed ……………………………………………………………………
e. I feel hurt …………………………………………………………………………………
f. I want to bring some closure to our argument.
g. I am sorry that I ……………………………………………………………………….
Show humility and empathy-James 5:16a -“Confess your faults one to
another.”
If it still seems to be challenging to talk to the other person or your
mate, write him/her a letter, text, or email, then read and meditate
on Psalms 138:8 -“The Lord will perfect that which concerns you.”
Pastors Jesse and Brenda McNeil are Assistant Pastors at Word Alive Ministries, Inc. in Lakeland, Florida. They are committed marriage and family pastors, advisors, and teachers, offering premarital preparation, personal advisory, post marital advisory, and wedding services to any-one who desires. Pastor Jesse is also the author of the very influential book, “Powerful Principles for Choosing a Marriage Partner.” The McNeils have been married for more than 42 years and have worked together as a dynamic, unified ministry team for over 36 years. You are sure to be blessed and in-spired by their awesome ministry.
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